Parent Tip Sheet: Surviving the gimme season
Here are some tips on how to control holiday consumerism:
- Set your rules ahead of time. Discuss holiday spending early; be clear and consistent about what things you are and aren’t willing to buy and about situations where children are allowed to ask for things. For instance, you might say that gift requests made before December 1st will be ignored, or that no wishes for gifts can be made while in a store or while the TV is on. You may also want to have rules about the particular kinds of things you are and aren’t willing to buy.
- Don’t negotiate. When children ask for something that you’re not willing or able to buy for them, don’t be tempted to respond with a counter-offer: stick to the rules you’ve established. Keep the rules consistent for everyone in your family.
- Limit exposure to advertising and brands. You can limit the number of commercials your children see by recording the shows they like and then skipping the commercials. If they’re watching videos on YouTube, teach them to click Skip on ads as soon as they can. Commercial-free channels are good alternatives as well; some broadcasters are ad-free all day, while some others have specific ad-free blocks of children’s programming. It’s harder to keep children from being exposed to brands, because almost all merchandise for children is branded and even shows on public television often have had brands built around them. While parents always have the option of refusing to buy (or accept) branded merchandise, a middle ground is to only buy products where the brand is actually part of the content of the product – you might be willing to buy, for instance, Thomas the Tank Engine books or videos (which are about the character) or toy trains (which allow children to re-enact the stories in the books, or make up new ones) but not Thomas pyjamas. This can curb the desire to have every product that bears the brand.
- Be aware of online advertising. Many parents are unaware of just how commercialized children’s Internet spaces are. In fact, most of the sites most popular among kids either carry advertising or are directly associated with a brand (such as MyScene with Barbie and Pixie Hollow with Disney.) If you’re trying to limit your children’s exposure to advertising and branding, being aware of what they’re encountering online is an important step.
- Discuss advertising with your kids. One of the concerns about advertising is that children aren’t able to question the messages they receive, and sometimes can’t even tell the difference between content and advertising. (This is particularly challenging in cases where the content and advertising are mixed together, as in the websites mentioned above.) Talk to your children early (and often – what children are able to understand about advertising changes as they get older) about what the purpose of advertising is and the various tricks that marketers use to make us want their products.
- Keep holiday fever under control. As the holidays approach, kids get more and more excited about what they hope to find under the tree. During the weeks beforehand you can defuse that somewhat by going to places where they can get new things at little or no cost: regular visits to the library are good for this, as are thrift shops (these are a good opportunity to encourage children to give away some of their old or unused toys as well, though it’s best not to tie getting a toy directly to giving one away.)